Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Is venting a good way to move on? how long should it take to move on?

Venting is good at first when you are first
dealing the wounds of something or someone that hurt you. Talking to your therapist about the situation is a good idea. He/she can help you come up with a plan to process what happened in a healthy way, so eventually you can accept it and move forwards in live.
There is no set sit for long how something should take to move on from, whether it be a break-up, death, job loss, a fight, etc. Everyone is emotionally different. But it is important at a certain point, as I said, to talk to a therapist, and work on moving on.

Venting is a good way to release your
emotions but it's not a good way to move on. You see, moving on take a long time. It depends on the experience you want to move on from though. For example, you want to move on from a certain person that hurt you much but you can't because you still remember the great times you share together. If you experience that, make sure to forgive the person but never forget because if you do you'll also forget the great times you had experienced.

However this could start to make you resent your ex-partner, if you're constantly venting about things that have upset you that they did. Overall I would say that venting is a good way to move on, because you're getting everything
off your chest and the person you're venting to is able to show you support. In my opinion,I would say that it takes atleast four months to even start to get over someone, that's if you even do. Sometimes you never get over
somebody, if the relationship was very real and an emotional connection was made, sometimes you just learn to live without them in your life, and learn how to be happy without them.

It is very important to express our
emotions in a calm, healthy way rather than letting them simmer and explode later on. So venting has potential for lessening uncontrolled outbursts later. However, venting also has the potential to reinforce negative thoughts or beliefs if we give it that power. It's all in what you do with it.

In short - Yes, vent! Make sure you have a solid grasp on objective thoughts, even if you aren't thinking them, and know that your situation is not hopeless.

Tuesday, November 24, 2015

EASY WAY TO UNDERSTAND BOYS




Boys are ofcourse very difficult to underrstand...like girls...boys show their emotions only with someone close to their heart but share their happiness with everyone....

Although there are guys whose love is only a lust on the girls....there are many guys who love their girl as their life...

Guys are more possesive that they cannot tolerate their girl being close to some other guy..because they want more importance and attention from his girl..than that of any other guy...

Guys like to spend more time with their friends...if their love or any relationship hinders that they feel irritated

Boys though like to talk to talkative girls..they always want to talk to reserved girls and they want to show the  world that even such girls talk with them....Guys avoid taking help...unless they feel that they cannot do it by themselves...

Guys love their girlfriends even if they don't say it often...guys are not always vocal about their feelings..

Guys as lovers,friends or brothers etc...care silently but not showy..they show their feelings whenever necessary but not for the sake of showing...

If a girl understand a guy and behave with him in that way..she will be the girl top in his priority list...boys like when someone understand them..in every aspect...

As we all know that breakup occur mostly due to misunderstanding..understanding each other in every situation is basic stone for love...

Guys are very easy to understand....if one get closer to them they will be very open with you and share everything....but there are also guys who flirt in the name of  friendship...who deceive in the name of love and who cheat in the name of husband...so be careful with themmm...

Monday, November 23, 2015

Best friends can never live without each other...




My friends, my idots who were with me..in my happiness and sadness..and always show me beauty of friendship....only thing they showed me is the happiness....happiness in everything....even in sadness...

All the problems were found so easy to me...when i was with them...i found everthing beautiful...i used to laugh with out any reason.....we used to laugh in alltogether...for  the reason known only by us...we used to face everyone's problem as our own problem...

I will not say my friends are ultimate..and no one can stand before them....i can only say that they are  ultimate in making me happy....and ultimate in sharing my good and bad...ultimate in doing all the crazy things with me....

Only sad thing is they did not teach me...how to be happy....and with whom to share..and with whom to fight..in their absence..my friends forgot to teach me how to do craziest things alone....

Love may make life beautiful..but only friendship has the power of making love beautiful...Any love that starts with friendship is mostly a successfull love...because their friendship from years matter more to them...than their love..

There a many words to describe one as your loved one..but there are no qualifications and no expectations from one who comes in to our life as our friend..

some times we share everything with friend..even the things we hesitate to share with our loved ones...the only reason for this is we trust that whatever we say and however we behave...friends will always be with us..

So friends please do not ignore or hurt your loving friends....everyfriend add value to your life....miss u all my friends....